At one time or another, we all experience a time in our lives where we are faced with trauma, loss, and adversity. How well we cope with the crisis determines if whether the outcome is being overwhelmed and depressed or stronger and more self confident.
Steps to take:
- Acknowlege the feelings
The only way to heal from a painful event is to allow yourself to accept, experience, and express your full emotions. This is the first step in healing and can be done by verbally venting your feelings, confiding in someone, or journaling. The more you can express the feelings that are bottled up inside, the easier it is to get past the pain.
- Get rid of the blame
When a trauma occurs, it is quite normal to want to blame someone but that only results in lingering feelings and prolonging of the misery. Try to find a way to forgive the person that harmed you, forgive yourself for being fallible, and find a way to get past the incident.
- Find support
The best way to get over a trauma is to find a support group. These are individuals that have gone through or are going through the same situation as you.
- Look for meaning
Instead of asking “why me” or “why did this happen”, look past the situation and ask the question “what now”. Look for ways to put your life back together, reorganize your priorities, and move forward.
- Believe in yourself
Those who want to get past a crisis succeed the most when they believe they have the ability to personally bounce back from anything.
- Connect with spiritual side
Individuals that are religious or connect with their spiritual side stay healthier and have higher levels of well being. A good way to connect with your spiritial side is to worship, immerse yourself in inspirational materials, creating a sacred space, and meditating.